A Mini Check-In In the Midst of A Pandemic : “Hey You, How Are You?”
Hey you, how are you? Are you feeling fine in the midst of this pandemic?
To be quite honest with you, I have no idea where this post is going to go. There isn’t a plan going into this post really. I have just had a long day and wanted to sit and chat with you for a while, that’s all. If that’s alright with you, of course. If this is not your cup of tea, I understand too. You are more than welcome to click off this post and come back another time, that’s totally okay too.
So how have you been? Have you been well? Busy? It’s important to take care of your own well being, be it mental or physical. It took a pandemic for me to understand just how important I am––as a person. Before the pandemic, I would always adhere to the “play hard, work hard” motto. While there is nothing wrong with that, I have realized that working hard and playing hard might not always be a solution to everything. These days, I have opted––or at least tried to––lead a more balanced lifestyle. I am still failing at it a lot, stumbling here and there in trying to keep my work and playtime balanced, but overall, I am putting in the effort to change for the better, and that matters.
You have to remember that you only have one body and one brain. Sure, you can treat it horribly when you’re young and able. However, have you ever heard of the saying, “you reap what you sow?” So if you don’t treat your body and mind well right from now, don’t be surprised when you breakdown from stress sometime in the future or got aches all over your body at a later time for not taking care of it right.
It took me some time to hammer into my head the fact that when it comes to money, you can always earn more of it. However the same cannot be said about your well-being and your mental serenity if you don’t listen to your body and mind and continue to push yourself past breaking point for career advancement or even more money.
Remember what you are trading for, and always ask yourself if it is worth it.
It is okay to rest. Rest times are not a waste. You are human, not a machine.
This is something that I have always struggled with and still struggle with to this day. However again with everything, I am putting in the effort to work on it and that is enough.
Praise yourself when you did something well, no matter how small. You completed your goal to drink 8 glasses of water today? Good job, you did well. You went to bed on time so that you can wake up refreshed and well-rested the next morning? You are doing great, I am proud of you. It is important to praise yourself and give yourself the appreciation that you deserve. It does no one good to be too hard on oneself. Remember, we’re here only for a short time, might as well love ourselves while we’re at it, no?
Are you surrounding yourself with people who lift you up instead of pulling you down? This is another thing that I go by, “Having no friends at all is better than having bad friends.”
Throughout life, we will definitely meet people from different walks of life, with different points of view as well as different personalities and characters. There will be people who we match with instant and can be close with barely any effort at all, but then there will also be people who we just cannot stand. It is okay to pick and choose the people you surround yourself with. Remember, you are the average of the 5 people with who you spend most of your time.
And I firmly believe a lot of us would like to be the best versions of ourselves and are constantly working towards that. While sure, you can do it alone, isn’t it always so much more exciting when you have a group of close buddies who you know will always have your back and you theirs no matter what?
Green is the color of grass. Grass reminds me of the forest…or maybe, even the meadows. Meadows make me think about nature and nature is good for us. For those of us who live in big cities, who are always on the go while doing a dozen things all at once––it is good sometimes to just turn off all the electronics and escape into the calm and peace of nature for a little while.
While our technology has progressed with leaps and bounds, truth to be told, our monkey brain is still having a hard time catching up. In the past 200 years, we have gone from no tv to now being able to stream whatever we want with just a touch of a finger. Despite how much our lives have changed due to our progress with technology and how it has so deeply integrated with our lives, our brains are still the same as it ever was. It is not used to the constant bombardment of information and news from all sides. All these choices we have in today’s modern world––while convenient––are also the root of a lot of stress.
At the end of the day, as much as you love the constant hustle and bustle of a busy city with its jungle of concrete buildings, I believe that our bodies and souls feel most at peace when they are surrounded by greeneries and nature instead of concrete buildings. So if you are feeling a little bit too overwhelmed, it might be a good idea to schedule a week or two away from everything and just relax.
Help is good, do not be afraid to ask for help. Remember, everyone is too busy living their lives to judge yours. They all have their own worries and problems, so if you worry that people will judge you or think of you as weak because you’re asking for help, don’t.
Because a lot of people worry about themselves and how other people will think about them too much to judge you and your worries. So relax, take a deep breath. Remember that you are enough and that people care. If you need help, reach out and ask for help. The first step is always the hardest, but again, you only have one body and one mind, if you don’t care for it who will?
At the end of the day, all the things that I have said above are based on my own experiences and some might apply to you or none of it applies to you. And that is okay. I suppose after this whole pandemic fiasco I realized just how important human connection is. In today’s world where life is so high paced and we are more connected more than ever thanks to the internet, humans are lacking––now more than ever––genuine connection and interaction.
I myself included, I have been so caught up with climbing the ladder that I have abandoned trying to build lasting relationships. And then after I have climbed up significantly, I look back and realize I’m all up here all by myself. All my victories and defeats, yet no friends to share with. So I decided to change for the better and started reaching out, now I have a small group of friends with who I keep in contact daily and I feel like my quality of life has gotten so much better ever since.
I guess what I am trying to say is that you are not alone, whatever it is you are feeling right now. It might feel like you are, but you are not. There are countless people who have been in your position before, perhaps I have as well, and we have all pushed through and came out on the other side stronger and wiser.
Whatever it is you are going through right now, things will get better. You just have to chip away at it one day at a time. It will not be easy, it will be filled with tears of frustration and joy, but in the end it will be worth it.
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